How Can I Tell If Someone Is Lying To Me?

Here is what most people don’t know about someone who is lying;The first method is the most exciting one and most difficult to beat because its a part of your natural brain processing. In NLP this is called “eye accessing cues”.So first you will learn how eye accessing cues work and then how you can apply them to liars. It does require some skill - both in observation and questioning.Since this topic is about 40 years old I will use extracts;have you ever noticed eye movements?

have you ever noticed that people’s eyes move to different directions when being asked a question? research results showed that there is a connection between the way someone is thinking and the direction that his eye moves to. the six possible directions that the eye could go to when someone thinks are upper right ,upper left, middle right , middle left , lower right and lower left .each direction represents something that is currently taking place inside the mind. for a right handed person whom is facing you the following is an illustration of what does the different eye movements means (Note the following directions are describing the eye positions of someone who is facing you): By the way, this method is used by top levels of law enforcement, you may remember a scene from the movie “The Negotiator” with Samuel Jackson where he uses the following method to show how a person was lying? Anyways…


Here is a full discussion on the above technique which is essential to build understanding of the process;(note: looking up to the right, for a right handed person, can also mean that they are day dreaming or doing a visualization….that is why context is important.

The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.
Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.
Body Language of Lies:
• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.
• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.
• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.
Emotional Gestures & Contradiction
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.
• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says “I love it!” when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.
• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”
• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.
Interactions and Reactions
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.
• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.
• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.
Verbal Context and Content
• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”
•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn’t do it” instead of “I did not do it”LiarCard.com
• Liars sometimes avoid “lying” by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.
• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you… they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.
• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.
• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.
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Other signs of a lie:
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.
• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.
Final Notes:
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible. Also in understanding eye accessing cues individuals will often use combination of eye movements. For example; You ask a question, the person repeats it to him/her self to get a better understanding (eyes move down and to the left), then up and to the left remembering the instance in question then up and to the right to visualize how they see it now - In other words, the series of questions asked is very important

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